the new success

“To ask, “What’s best for me” is finite thinking. To ask, “What’s best for us” is infinite thinking.”  -Simon Sinek

In the era of Greta and #metoo we need a new success.

Instead of cooperation and collaboration, let’s embrace interconnectedness and reciprocity.

Instead of skills we need for jobs, let’s focus on skills we need to thrive as fully actualized human beings.

Let’s stop competing to be the most successful and instead, figure out what conditions will allow all to experience their own success.

Let’s embrace each child as full and complete.

In the era of fake news, complexity, and uncertainty, let’s be 100% certain about what really matters.

Instead of creating checklists of skills, let’s check with the children in our care: what gifts do they bring?; what are their hopes and dreams?

Instead of defining success for them, let’s ask them what it means to be successful and support them on their way.

Let’s stop offering simple solutions to complex problems and being surprised when they fail.

Let’s embrace our uncertainty about the future. And be okay with it. Failure isn’t an inability to predict the future. Failure is the inability to accept that you can’t possibly predict it. 

In an era of limited resources and environment, let’s spend time, significant time, determining how to use the resources we have, to advantage all.

Instead of sacrificing limited resources in the name of success, let’s define success by how we use these finite resources.

Instead of viewing success as a ladder we must climb, let’s see it as a way to add more rungs.

Let’s stop throwing resources at trendy projects for short term wins and instead fund projects that aren’t about winning or losing, but are about including all.

Let’s embrace that no success comes without failure and all failures help to define our successes.

It’s time for a new success.

The Value You Bring

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“Try not to become a human of success. Rather become a human of value.” 
                                                             ― Albert Einstein

 

The value you bring does not come from:

  • your title.
  • your position.
  • the buzz words you use.
  • your ability to schmooze.
  • your willingness to play political games.
  • the size of your ego.
  • the number of people you know.
  • the number of people who know you.
  • the number of presentations you have made.
  • the conferences you have attended.
  • the titles of books on your desk.
  • the number of compliments and acknowledgments you have received.
  • the hours you work.
  • the number of projects that you take on.

The value that you bring does not even come from the money you make.

Or even, the year that you were great.

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The value you bring comes from:

  • your empathy for others.
  • your ability to leave your ego at the door.
  • your willingness to embrace the complex and say: “I don’t know.”
  • your resolve in determining, clarifying, and articulating (so everyone can understand) what matters.
  • the time you spend doing what matters.
  • the occasions you spotlight others and step back.
  • the alignment between your words and actions.
  • your willingness to roll up your sleeves and do the work.
  • your ability to say no. No, that doesn’t align with my beliefs.
  • your authentic vulnerability.
  • your willingness to change your opinion.
  • the tenderness of your heart.
  • the value you place on feedback and reflection.
  • the times you say sorry and mean it.
  • the moments you are completely present.
  • your willingness to reach across divides and hold your hand patiently.

The value that you bring may not even be noticed. But rest assured you are valuable.

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What value do you bring?